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PracticalDad and Teens:  Gritting Teeth

I have three kids.  Several years ago, I was talking to another parent whose three kids were several years older than mine and I remarked that it must be nice to have kids that were older and didn't require the supervision needed by younger children.  Her response?  That pressure's gone but it's been replaced by a different kind of pressure now.

Now I get it.

The teenage years are ones in which the teen body resembles Dick Van Dyke playing a one-man band in Mary Poppins.  There's frenetic activity galore as the drums boom, cymbals crash, horns toot, elbows and knees plunge in random directions and the brain rewires itself.  And estrogen and testosterone bubble as frothily as a recently tapped keg.  With such a panoply of random energy and activity, the result is sometimes brutal as kids knock into one anothers' bodies and emotions, eliciting sarcastic, catty and nasty remarks.  And when I speak up, the sarcasm and attitude are pointed in my direction.  So I respond.  Because for me, gritting the teeth simply means that I don't bite them, not that I don't call them for the mouth.

Then I remember that I have as many teen years ahead of me as I had toddler years.

Comments

How I can relate to this one. I’m a solo dad to four: a son 16, and three daughters ages 13, 11, and 7. Someone asked me: is it any easier as they get older? Without hesitation, I reply: Easier? Yes. More complicated, too. The level of play is more intensive. Every now and then I get a glimmer of connectedness between them. Then, it’s back to the rivalries, snide remarks between them, and all the rest of the teenage soup. Good thing they’re still cute.

By Charlie, DaddyMom on December 07th, 2009

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